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Thoughts from a movie

Well today is the first day of December and for most people that means you start watching Christmas movies. Except for me and my family we have already been doing that for a couple of weeks. I love Christmas time. The reason is because everyone just seems in a better mood. And Christmas movies really capture that joy and spirit. One movie we watched this week was The Bishops Wife. I found it interesting that there were some classic lines in that movie that really made me think and some ideas that everyone should carry over into their life to keep that Christmas joy and spirit year-round.

The first line is from Dudley, “Angels are everywhere. When you are walking down the street you may be looking at an angel or may be looking at a homeless man.” I think this is a great quote because you really do never know who you are talking to or encountering. It is best to treat everyone with respect, dignity and kindness. Never assume anything about someone because you do not know their whole story. Life is about making connections. Some random man you meet on the street or cut off driving to work, may end up being a boss in the future or a future relative or neighbor. Just remember you never know who you may be running into. Just as in the Bible the innkeepers turned away Mary and Joseph (and the birth of baby Jesus). They did not know who was knocking at their door. But if you see a person in need, help out. Be kind to all. A great recent story on this is the N.Y. city cop that bought socks and boots for the homeless man.

The next quote is from Dudley again when he says, “We all come from our own little planet.” This ties somewhat into the previous quote about not really knowing the people we are interacting with. Everyone is different and unique in their own way. One experience is not the same for all involved. So try and be understanding. Don’t judge people because they are different. Rather embrace the diversity and use it to learn to grow. Just as no one knows everything about you and what you have gone through, you shouldn’t assume to know everything about another person.

The third quote was when Dudley says, “The only people that grow old are those that are born old.” This is great because it talks about the human spirit. Age is just a number, it doesn’t define you. What defines you is what is inside. I personally am getting older and older, but other than some aches now I still inside feel just as young as ever. Christmas has this way of making everyone feel younger. It brings back memories, gives hope and spreads joy. We all get that childlike feeling again on Christmas morning. Try and take this feeling into each day. While everyday may not be filled with the gatherings, gifts and songs as Christmas is…every day is still special. Treat it like that. Take a childlike look at the world to see how truly amazing it is. Don’t sit at home and waste your life. Get out and make a change!

The final quote is probably the most famous when Sylvester the cab driver says “The main trouble is there are too many people who don’t know where they’re going and they want to get there too fast!” What a great quote. This quote talks about patience. Too often people are running around trying to stay busy, especially during the Holiday season. They always say there is too much to do, too little time. It is important to not rush through life, going from one task to another. Rather take your time. Think about what needs to be done. But make sure you enjoy your life. Make sure you take time going through the mall or the stores to look at the decorations. Enjoy them. Make sure you aren’t speeding down the highway from store to store. Look at the sun shining, the clear skies and the lights on houses at night. Turn your radio onto a Christmas station and listen to the message all the songs are giving you. Christmas is a time for joy, to spread happiness and help others. Christmas is about giving back. Make sure you don’t spend your time focusing on the material things and staying busy. Be sure to take time out and thank God and see what magic Christmas time brings.


Running Down a Dream….

Here is something I thought I would never be on the positive side of…..running. With the decent weather we have had lately I have been able to continue my running outside. And if you had asked me as recently as five years ago if I would be excited about running outside I would have called you crazy. Although I have always been an active person running was something that never really interested me. But as we get older, we change. I found that running is a challenge and with it there is a strong connection to life; which is what I will talk about today.

The similarities between running and life are numerous. It is just you out there. Sure you can run with friends or another person (trainer) but it is up to you to keep going. No one knows the pain you might be feeling inside or the doubt you have about continuing to push. Running’s biggest positive is that it strengthens you mentally. To achieve your goals, distance or time, it depends on YOU. No one can do it for you. You must get beyond any mental barrier you have and keep pushing yourself.

That is the challenge I love best about running and I have transferred over into my life. Running has made me mentally stronger. I know that I must overcome my own doubts about things just as in life. If I want to succeed it is up to me to do it. Running has turned out to be not only a great physical tool, but a mental tool as well. The exercise helps relief stress, puts my mind back into focus and the benefits of being able to just run outside and enjoy the world that God created. The pluses continue to go on and on. Now if I am not able to run for a few days I do not feel like myself. So here is to getting out and enjoying the weather while we can before the bitter cold and snow of winter arrive.

For those who have never tried running I truly suggest getting out there. Even for those who are unable to, try walking. The point is to get out there and push yourself. Challenge yourself each day to do better. Make yourself stronger physically and mentally. Running helps teach that it is up to us to become better and not rely on anyone else. For me running has become a mental state for me that I have carried into life.

As Tom Petty says I’m “Workin’ on a mystery, goin’ wherever it leads. Runnin’ down a dream.”

A journey begins…..

At heart I feel like I am meant to write. Writing helps me express myself and I think I can use my ability to help others express themselves. I have always been told I am a good listener. With listening comes interpreting. And that is what I want to do On this blog. My goal is to interpret what I see in this world and give my take on it.  It will most surely help me and I hope it will help others. 

For my first post I want to give some background on the title of the blog, Brian the Wanderer. I wanted just the Wanderer but it was taken so I had to include my name. The Wanderer stems from my favorite band Of A Revolution also known as O.A.R.  (no mom it is not oar as in a boat paddle). OAR has always been an important part of my life. I immediately had a connection with their music from the first time I heard them in 1998 back in college. 

Throughout their songs OAR tells a story of a man known as the wanderer. Several songs continue his story in all of their CDs and it was from here I took my idea of the wanderer. 

As you will learn in this blog music is a huge part of my life. It can change your mood, bring back memories and help you heal. Without music I am not sure what I would do. It is an expressive form and I am  grateful for those talented enough to share and create it with me and billions of others. 

As meNtioned earlier I always felt a connection with OAR and their Wanderer character. I have had many ups and downs in my life. Been blessed with a great family and group of friends. I have had the opportunity to experience some once in a lifetime moments, which I will talk about later, and made some mistakes I don’t want to remember. Throughout all of this I have been searching. Searching for what I really want in life. 

I have found over the last year I have found what is truly important to me. After years of living out of town and away from my family I moved back home to be with them. That part of me that was missing for six years had been filled. Still I am searching. I am in a job right now that I took to simply pay the bills. I am searching for my true purpose. I am also searching for more in life. Despite having great support from my family and friends I still feel alone at times. Hence my connection once again to the Wanderer character. 

But I think that the Wanderer is an example for all of us. We should all be searching, looking for what is important to us and someway to improve. Never settle, dream big and stay true to your heart. You know all of those cliche sayings. Haha. I will close with a few lines from the Wanderer by OAR. 

“He’s the wanderer looking for his long lost home. He’s only got one place to go. He’s wandering and wondering when to go home. He’s not alone, not alone, not alone” 

I have returned home to my wonderful family and true friends. I know I am not alone. And I am looking forward to continuing this journey I am on.